Thursday, May 11, 2017

"Most men just want a woman who's nice"

Fox News:  At the end of the day, most men just want a woman who’s nice. “Nice,” to a man, means being soft, gentle and kind. It means asking your husband how his day was and really listening. It means doing something nice for him with no expectation of getting something in return—you know, the way you did when you were dating.

But wait a minute, you say. Don’t women want the same thing? A man who’s nice?

Not exactly. Most women do want a man who’s kind, but that’s not the same as nice. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy. That’s because just as most men are attracted to femininity, or softness, most women are attracted to masculinity. And masculinity is hard. Gruff. Take charge.

So, where are you on the nice scale? If you’re not an inherently nice person, believe me I get it. I think I’m pretty nice, but that isn’t the first word one would think of to describe me. The truth is, I’ve had to exercise my nice muscle.

I’ve had to learn how to be be nice.

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28 comments:

edutcher said...

Most nice guys will tell you nice translates in women as harmless.

And women, the smart ones, anyway, do want a nice guy after they've had the bad boy go through their money, neglect the kids, hang out at the strip joint. be mean to them, etc.

The dumb ones keep coming back for more.

bagoh20 said...

You can have some edge, some strength, some excitement and risk without being an asshole, but women will still call you an ass for it. That's fine. They can't just come out and admit they like it. They think that would encourage you into being an actual asshole and make them look bad.

What I want in a woman is a true partner, my strongest ally, a woman who has my back no matter how tough it gets. I don't want her to be hard, but I want resilience. I want her dedicated and committed to us as a team. I can give that back in spades. The softness, fun and intimacy comes easy, becuase that feels good and gives back its reward immediately. Nothing is as sexy as a woman caring for and defending me, us, and ours.

ndspinelli said...

A lead off negative, strikeout comment. But our guy in the 2 hole doubles into the gap. As it were.

Sixty Grit said...

That, my friend, is the difference between experience and talking out of one's ass.

edutcher said...

I take it, Sixty, you mean cliff and not me, because I've seen plenty of women like the ones I mentioned, and anybody who says otherwise is making the stupid comment.

Sixty Grit said...

Ed, the subject was what men want in a woman, and your comment was about what women want.

Once again, you have pegged the bullshit meter.

edutcher said...

From the original post

"Not exactly. Most women do want a man who’s kind, but that’s not the same as nice. Ask any guy you know, and he’ll likely give you example after example of women they know who said they wanted a nice guy but in reality wanted a bad boy."

You've got to stop using nd as a touchstone.

Among other things, he's that bad boy smart women ditch.

There's a big difference between bad and strong, which is what women really want. You can be strong and a nice guy.

Rabel said...

I would tell you guys what I think but my avatar leaves me a little boxed in on the subject.

Trooper York said...

Anybody who says they know what women want is full of it.

They have no idea what they want.

Trooper York said...

Wait I take that back.

Women do know what they want.

They want to be a pain in the ass.

Rabel said...

AS far as you're concerned, Troop, it's easy They just want to lift and separate.

Trooper York said...

You would be surprised. Some of them don't want their breasts to look good. They want them minimized and downplayed. They are afraid of their sexuality and don't want or are not used to being in a good bra.

It is a dangerous physiological game. I have to check out of those discussion. I used to be able to give an opinion about how a dress looked. But bras not so much.

"Hey toots your tits look great in that!"

Just doesn't fly with the millennials.

edutcher said...

I've read some amply-endowed women have to minimize and downplay for work. Especially for that all-important job interview.

Not everybody is as fun-loving as we are.

ndspinelli said...

edutcher, FUCK YOU! my wife of 40 YEARS, a few here have gotten to know, is as smart as anyone here. Sixty knows her. It's too bad your old man was an abusive alcoholic. It's not too late to seek therapy. We're not qualified to help someone w/ your issues. And, since you're such a negative, know-it-all, asshole, you will definitely need to pay someone for some intensive therapy. Did your old man cuff around mom also?

Methadras said...

Nice guys finish last and get friend-zoned. I've seen it a hundred times and they come to me and ask me wtf went wrong and when I tell them, they are bewildered.

Methadras said...

edutcher said...
I've read some amply-endowed women have to minimize and downplay for work. Especially for that all-important job interview.

Not everybody is as fun-loving as we are.


I'm not saying you're a woman, but your sports bra must have lost its elasticity I imagine. :D /running away

ndspinelli said...

LOL! I'm thinking of the Seinfeld w/ Kramer and Frank Costanza developing the "mansierre." Kramer wanted to call it the "Bro."

ndspinelli said...

Meth has met my wife. Hell, anyone who has read one of her books knows she's smart.

Sixty Grit said...

Spins, lighten up on the poor bastard - it wasn't his choice to become the reincarnation of Professor Irwin Corey. Sometimes you are dealt a hand in life that is simple insurmountable.

Methadras said...

ndspinelli said...
Meth has met my wife. Hell, anyone who has read one of her books knows she's smart.


Nick, indeed she is. A lovely and gracious woman. You're a lucky dude.

ndspinelli said...

Sixty, It's tough when the loser takes shot @ your wife. But, I'm trying. However, calling him Irwin Corey is a double whammy because he was a fucking Commie!

ndspinelli said...

Meth, Thanks. My bride was fascinated w/ your take on things. She's to the left of us, but not a liberal..a moderate by most standards. We had a liberal visitor who blasted Trump for going after sanctuary cities. The woman had bought the liberal lies, and is a liberal herself. My bride calmly and concisely explained the consequences of this unlawful behavior and just how wrong and dangerous it is. My bride is APPALLED at this sanctuary horseshit. She retired in 2006 and put detainers on shitbirds all the time for 30 years w/o any of this Quasimodo "SANCTUARY..SANCTUARY!"

Methadras said...

Fascinated you say? Do tell. I hope I didn't scare the jeebus out of her with what I said. :D My worldview is certainly different and skewed. I've see the effluent fingerprint that marxists leave behind the world over. It's not pretty. They are reavers and ravagers of humanity. They are the true enemy.

Sixty Grit said...

And, World's Foremost Authority!

And should anyone care to take a shot at my wife, I will do what I can to help.

I miss my wife, but my aim is getting better...

rcocean said...

I've noticed that whenever a thread has more than 20 responses, its usually because 2 people are fighting.

Sixty Grit said...

Or r,l is off her meds. Or both.

ndspinelli said...

Meth, She was fascinated w/ your take on stuff, not the least bit scared. Well..that scifi plot may have creeped her out!!!

Methadras said...

Lulz, did it really? I hope not. It's a young boys fantasy story never realized. Well, I suppose it is creepy when an entire planet wants to commit suicide. :D