That's not quite true. I have a backache, but its from yard work done yesterday, not from painfully obvious truths that I forgot too soon.
It is an interesting read for a Saturday morning, though.
Forgiveness is a promise – one you want to keep. When you forgive someone you are making a promise not to hold the unchangeable past against your present self. It has nothing to do with freeing a criminal of his or her crime, and everything to do with freeing yourself of the burden of being an eternal victim.Here's the article. Were the truths painfully obvious to you? On a scale of 1 to 10, what is your pain level?
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It's at moments like this I try to remind myself not to overreact when something displeases me.
Maybe we can add a number 11 to that list.
Make friends with failure.
Speaking of which, I enjoyed watching Spain vs. The Netherlands yesterday. Genuinely interesting and exciting, alternately.
But I've gotta tell ya, I don't care very much with what I'll call the "sub-cultural norms" of the sport. The feigning of injury, the cheap hacks, the boy-fight-quality ball-busting prior to corner kicks, the post-goal hotdogging for the camera, . . .
I could go on.
Seems to me, if it were hockey, any of that kind of crap would be met with a good, swift, normative punch out.
Still, the athleticism is astounding and the play is something that approaches beautiful, so it seems to me it will be worth tolerating the crap, at least for a few more matches.
What is it they say? Take what you like and leave the rest?
Hey! Maybe we can make that number 12 on the list of painfully obvious truths!
Love this. Thanks, Michael.
Beautiful day here. Going to go live it. :)
You're welcome, Darcy.
Same here!
Interesting how schools tend to teach the opposite of many of these, whether explicitly (busy work! means productivity!) or implicitly (the social aspects which inspires pursuing an often artificial identity with stuff or values).
This is a list that I think gets obvious the older one gets, and if it's not obvious by the time you're 50 it can be painful to look back on a life not lived with these in mind.
This is probably a list that should be given to every high school graduate as they enter college or the work force.
I'd argue with #4, but otherwise all you need is a little experience to know the others, and they're not all that glaring.
The thing about this type of advice is that it's always too broad to follow blindly, and using it as some kind of mantra is dangerous. For example, #4: "Some kind of failure always occurs before success." This is just not true. It may be true that we all fail at times, but fear of failure is not something you should just ignore. It's there for a reason. It's great advice for someone who is paralyzed by fear, but I know just as many people who are wasting their lives because of not being careful enough, as I do those who are wasting them on fear. Take two people before the 2008 crash. One is fearful of the market conditions and does not dive into a huge real estate loan, and another less fearful one does. One now is bankrupt, and the other is poised to buy at market lows. The failure was not an advantage, and the one who didn't make it learned the same lesson for free. Be bold, but be smart. Too many people believe their heart (desire) is some how intelligent or in touch with the future. It's emotion, hormones, chemical responses designed to get you running, fighting or reproducing. Don't confuse the drive to mate with sound advice. Then again, mating might be exactly what you need. Just sayin' - it ain't that simple.
I think most of these 10 are like that. If you add "but use your brain and reason." to each one, then yea, good advice, but then we really only need one, huh?
Now, you would still vote for Obama again, wouldn't you?
Oh yea, I forgot to tell you: Yesterday was FRIDAY!
#2 is simply wrong. Anyone who knows any history at all or reads the paper should know that.
To the extent that #10 is true, it is meaningless.
There is only one painfully obvious truth that both Lem and I can attest to:
BOSTON SUCKS!!!!!!!!!!
Great article MH, especially: "You will only ever live the life you create for yourself."
I've tried to instill in my offspring. Don't wait for someone else to make you happy. Figure out what you want out of life and go for it. Take chances, don't stay in job you don't like just because it pays well.
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