If presented with a picture of Sheryl Crow, Shania Twain, and Alanis Morissette, I would be hard pressed to correctly identify each. I like some of their songs, but they fall into that category of pop singers who are not demonstrably crazy and not extremely good looking and not extremely recognizable.. I would guess their politics are equally indistinguishable.......Roseanne picked up some sizable ratings by the simple expedient of not despising Trump. There's some big money to be made by a pop star who's willing to say a few nice things about Trump......I don't think Kanye West will have much cross over appeal with Trump voters, bu Shania Twain could have had them with minimal effort.
A variation on Never Apologize is Never Complain, Never Explain. That was once so much the way the upper class conducted itself and raised its children that it was practically an upper class mantra. Not that it's a class thing. It applies across the board and makes for a smoother functioning less annoying society.
Apologizing actually keeps the attention going which is apparently a desireable thing. It does spotlights what a bunch of silly insecure twits inhabit the left/media. Screeching if someone says something vaguely nice about Trump or whatever. Kanye is finding that out currently. BAN/BLOCK/SMEAR/UNPERSON THE TRAITOR. We brought you in this world, and we can take you out! Mean mommies.
"Until addiction as a means of coping with that form of communication shows up in the 2nd and 3rd generations."
Okay, what's the alternative? Let's say a parent communicates immense sympathy for every whine out of her child's mouth. Let's say she has endless heart to hearts with him and lets him know that the important thing is not how he performed but that he is loved unconditionally. Is that better? Or will that produce its own addictions down the road in the kid who wasn't toughened up?
Sorry if the response sounds harsh. But that's the point. As this Peterson guy from Canada said in the video of a recent post, "Life is harsh." LIFE IS HARSH. It's a terrible admission. And you either believe it or you don't. If you believe it, as I do, it follows that there is NO form of communicating with the next generation that will be without drawbacks. I think fewer drawbacks come out of Never Complain, Never Explain than out of coddling.
There's a middle road, ricpic but it's not the path of least resistance. MrM and I have experienced life as difficult and so have our two adult children. So far honest, open communication has been more helpful and effective in moving us through conflict, loss, crisis and confusion than coddling or a Never Complain, Never Explain, Never Apologize approach. As I've said before, I believe Grace and Truth, present and practiced together, are both necessary for love, encouragement and character to flourish and grow in health and strength.
In my opinion, Mr Peterson's book on 12 Rules for Life An Antidote To Chaos is well worth $15 for a new hardcover. My copy contains many underlines and folded pages denoting agreement and places for pondering. In it he's clear on value of forthright communication.
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If presented with a picture of Sheryl Crow, Shania Twain, and Alanis Morissette, I would be hard pressed to correctly identify each. I like some of their songs, but they fall into that category of pop singers who are not demonstrably crazy and not extremely good looking and not extremely recognizable.. I would guess their politics are equally indistinguishable.......Roseanne picked up some sizable ratings by the simple expedient of not despising Trump. There's some big money to be made by a pop star who's willing to say a few nice things about Trump......I don't think Kanye West will have much cross over appeal with Trump voters, bu Shania Twain could have had them with minimal effort.
Since nobody's really heard from her in at least 10 years, why even bother with the Full Court Alinsky?
But, as always, Troop and the Duke make the salient point about dealing with a lynch mob
No doubt. When leftwing goons demand it tell them to F Off.
A variation on Never Apologize is Never Complain, Never Explain. That was once so much the way the upper class conducted itself and raised its children that it was practically an upper class mantra. Not that it's a class thing. It applies across the board and makes for a smoother functioning less annoying society.
It applies across the board and makes for a smoother functioning less annoying society.
Until addiction as a means of coping with that form of communication and relationship shows up in the 2nd and 3rd generations.
Apologizing actually keeps the attention going which is apparently a desireable thing. It does spotlights what a bunch of silly insecure twits inhabit the left/media. Screeching if someone says something vaguely nice about Trump or whatever. Kanye is finding that out currently. BAN/BLOCK/SMEAR/UNPERSON THE TRAITOR. We brought you in this world, and we can take you out! Mean mommies.
"Until addiction as a means of coping with that form of communication shows up in the 2nd and 3rd generations."
Okay, what's the alternative? Let's say a parent communicates immense sympathy for every whine out of her child's mouth. Let's say she has endless heart to hearts with him and lets him know that the important thing is not how he performed but that he is loved unconditionally. Is that better? Or will that produce its own addictions down the road in the kid who wasn't toughened up?
Sorry if the response sounds harsh. But that's the point. As this Peterson guy from Canada said in the video of a recent post, "Life is harsh." LIFE IS HARSH. It's a terrible admission. And you either believe it or you don't. If you believe it, as I do, it follows that there is NO form of communicating with the next generation that will be without drawbacks. I think fewer drawbacks come out of Never Complain, Never Explain than out of coddling.
There's a middle road, ricpic but it's not the path of least resistance. MrM and I have experienced life as difficult and so have our two adult children. So far honest, open communication has been more helpful and effective in moving us through conflict, loss, crisis and confusion than coddling or a Never Complain, Never Explain, Never Apologize approach. As I've said before, I believe Grace and Truth, present and practiced together, are both necessary for love, encouragement and character to flourish and grow in health and strength.
In my opinion, Mr Peterson's book on 12 Rules for Life An Antidote To Chaos is well worth $15 for a new hardcover. My copy contains many underlines and folded pages denoting agreement and places for pondering. In it he's clear on value of forthright communication.
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