Monday, January 30, 2017

"What are the best questions to ask to get to deeply know someone?"

Reddit top comments...

"What was your first pet?" or "Who was your favorite teacher?" Then read all of their emails.

"You like Huey Lewis and the News?"

what's your reddit username?

Instead of "what do you do?", I quite like "what gets you out of bed in the morning?"

What would  your best friend say is your worst quality?

There are [36 questions](https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html?_r=0) that people can answer together to get to know one another better. The idea behind the 36 questions is to see if you are romantically compatible, but I've done it with friends for kicks and it definitely gave me a better understanding of them.

17 comments:

ricpic said...

"What books are you reading?" is a great revealer question, provided you're talking to someone with a brain.

ndspinelli said...

ric, Very good. There are actually many good "best" questions. But, the key to understanding someone is to read body language when they answer. 80% of all communication is non verbal. If I had to give a "best" question, it would be this. "Please tell me about your parents."

Leland said...

My first conversation with the woman that became my wife lasted about 8 hours. I'm not very good at distilling things down to a single question, but our marriage is still going strong after 15 years. The things I consider basics are: agreement on finances and children, as those two things can cause the most stress. It also helps to have agreement on religion and politics. However you get to those agreements is not as important as sticking with them. If you can't stick with it; find someone more compatible so that all three of you (the person you are now leaving, yourself, and the person you will find) will have a happier life.

windbag said...

Who would you erase from history if you could? (not necessarily kill, just erase)

What's the greatest in injustice in history and how would you correct it?

Why is Paris Hilton famous?

Ginger or Mary Ann?

Beethoven or Chopin?

Is Frodo the hero of LOTR or is it Sam?

What does $20 get me?

Eric the Fruit Bat said...

"What do you think it means to get to deeply know someone?"

Eric the Fruit Bat said...

Is Frodo the hero of LOTR or is it Sam?

Wait. It's not Gollum?

AprilApple said...

hello i love can i jump in your game

ampersand said...

"Your money or your life?"

windbag said...

Does anybody really know what time it is? Does anybody really care?

Methadras said...

windbag said...

Who would you erase from history if you could? (not necessarily kill, just erase)

What's the greatest in injustice in history and how would you correct it?

Why is Paris Hilton famous?

Ginger or Mary Ann?

Beethoven or Chopin?

Is Frodo the hero of LOTR or is it Sam?

What does $20 get me?


Mohamed.

Methadras said...

Leland said...

My first conversation with the woman that became my wife lasted about 8 hours. I'm not very good at distilling things down to a single question, but our marriage is still going strong after 15 years. The things I consider basics are: agreement on finances and children, as those two things can cause the most stress. It also helps to have agreement on religion and politics. However you get to those agreements is not as important as sticking with them. If you can't stick with it; find someone more compatible so that all three of you (the person you are now leaving, yourself, and the person you will find) will have a happier life.


What convinced me to marry my wife (now ex-wife) was the way she ate. Plus she was hot, but she ate like a man. I had to marry that.

Trooper York said...

Is you is or is you ain't my baby?

AprilApple said...

what does 20 get me? lolo.

ricpic said...

Ginger or Mary Ann?

There's no doubt that the Mary Ann voters won the election. Which makes it a fate of the world question!

Amartel said...

But Ginger won the vote!

AllenS said...

Do you have any... you know... piercings where you probably shouldn't have any?

Dust Bunny Queen said...

I think the best way to get to know someone isn't to interrogate them with questions but to have a back and forth conversation and let the questions be part of the natural flow.

Listen to what they have to say and work with that. Offer some insights into yourself, without turning the conversation to be all about you.